Wednesday, October 2, 2013
How A Muslim Woman Should Make Her Husband Happy
Welcome to smileminds: How A Muslim Woman Should Make Her Husband Happy: 1- Beautiful Reception •After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you,begin with a good greeting. •Meet him ...
Tuesday, October 1, 2013
Britain's first transsexual reveals: Elvis wanted me, Michael Hutchence had me, but I fancied John Prescott
She bewitched Salvador Dali, Pablo Picasso, Elvis Presley and INXS frontman Michael Hutchence.
And at the age of 78, April Ashley still has the power to stop men in their tracks.
But the first Briton to have full sex-change surgery admits to an unusual crush.
She always fancied Labour’s ex-deputy Prime Minister, her old friend John Prescott.
“We worked together in the 1950s,” she explains. “He was a commis chef and I was in charge of the bar and restaurant.
"He was incredibly nice and very, very handsome, like a young Marlon Brando. He was a sweet, shy, very elegant young man.
"I can see why his wife Pauline fell for him. He was more than dapper– he was strapping. He was just a lovely young man.”
Over the years April and John, now Lord Prescott, have kept in touch.
But they had not seen each other for many years before he opened an exhibition of photos covering her extraordinary life this week.
“I am so touched that John came to open the exhibition,” she says.
Speaking of the incident when her old pal thumped an egg-throwing protestor, she reveals: “I was dying to tell him that if someone threw an egg at me I would have decked them too. But I’d have done it with my handbag!”
Julian Hamilton/Daily Mirror
April’s still-elegant appearance in her late 70s gives no clue to the struggles of her early life when she was born as George Jamieson in the slums of Liverpool.
“It was a tough life at the beginning, very tough indeed,” she says. “I couldn’t tell anyone I felt I should have been born a girl.
“My mother wouldn’t speak to me. When I would go shopping with her, people would say to her ‘What is it?’ My brothers and sisters wouldn’t speak to me.
“I was brought up a strict Roman Catholic so I would talk to God all the time and beg to wake up as a girl.”
At 14 George ran away to join the Merchant Navy, trying to prove his masculinity. But what followed were years of soul-searching, suicide bids, and even electric shock treatment in a mental hospital.
At 20, after working in a Welsh hotel with John Prescott, she moved to Paris– and became April. She was the compere of a drag club, Le Carrousel, and won the attention of famous men.
Artists Salvador Dali and Pablo Picasso wanted her as their muse, and Elvis Presley bought her champagne every time he saw her.
April recalls: “Elvis was divine. He was stationed in Germany doing his service, but he hated Germany so he flew to Paris every weekend.
"He deflowered about 40 Bluebell girls at the Paris Lido.
“Elvis suddenly took a great shine to me but his manager Col Parker found out about me and forbade him from having anything to do with me.
"But we would be in the same club every weekend and he sent me a bottle of champagne every time.”
Dali visited the Carrousel every night for three weeks trying to persuade April to pose for him.
“He was this man with a crazy moustache, and crazy eyes, but I liked him,” she says. “But being a strict Roman Catholic, very young and very shy, I refused.”
She wasn’t at all impressed by Picasso.
“He would look you up and down and strip you with his eyes,” she says.
So did he want to paint April, or have sex with her?
“Both,” she says with a wicked laugh. “He was a dirty old man.”
Then in 1960 another star of Le Carrousel went to Casablanca to have sex-change surgery.
At 25, April realised that her dream of becoming a woman could come true.
The surgeon was Dr Georges Burou, the French gynaecologist who invented gender reassignment surgery.
After saving up the £3,000 she needed – equivalent to £60,000 today – April went to Casablanca too.
“Dr Burou said, ‘How come a beautiful girl like you wants to be a boy?’ I put my passport in front of him and he couldn’t believe it.
"He said come in tonight and we will do the operation tomorrow. No nonsense, no psychiatrists.”
Despite the risks of the seven-hour operation she was not scared.
“I didn’t want to live if I wasn’t a woman. I promised myself I would get to the age of 25 and if I hadn’t achieved it by then, I’d kill myself.”
She adds “I was one of Dr Burou’s guinea pigs. He was quite plain about that. I had to sign forms in case I died, and I almost did. I lost all my hair and I was desperately ill.”
Ken Walker
After recuperating in Casablanca, she moved to London. It was the Swinging 60s and she was was quick to embrace it.
She admits: “It was a very promiscuous time.”
Her past unknown, April became Vogue’s most popular underwear model and beat 400 other girls to win a role alongside Bing Crosby and Bob Hope in their film The Road to Hong Kong. But in 1961 a friend told the world her secret.
“I would have had a good career had it all not come out. I didn’t get much work after that. Nobody would employ me.”
At 50 she moved to America and took jobs as a waitress or a hostess. But when her past caught up the jobs disappeared.
April has been married twice and says that on a trip to Australia in 1982 she was seduced by Michael Hutchence of INXS.
“He came in to my hotel with his entourage an asked if I would like to go to his room for a bottle of champagne.
"So I went up and he was the most beautiful man, so elegant. We had a lovely night together.”
Rex
It was not until the Gender Recognition Act became law in 2005 that she was legally recognised as female and given a new birth certificate.
She returned to Britain and in 2012 she was awarded an MBE for services to transgender equality and her work with arts group Homotopia, based in Liverpool.
And this week she was back in her home town for the opening of her exhibition.
For someone with such a remarkable history she is refreshingly modest.
“I was always astonished that wherever I went people wanted to meet me,” she says.
“I would always be in a quiet corner at parties then after a few drinks people would be queueing up.
“Still, it hasn’t been an easy life. You have to be resilient. You can’t let people crush you.”
April Ashley: Portrait of a Lady is at the Museum of Liverpool until September 21 next year.
5 Unusual Ways Men Learn to Be Good Husbands
Eleven years in, Aaron Traister tells us the highly unusual ways he learned to be a good husband. P.S. There's useful info for women in here too.
Work with what you've got (source: MacGyver)
Forget the Cosbys and the Keatons. In terms of TV role models, MacGyver made the big impression. His message: You gotta use what you have instead of lamenting what you don't. MacGyver could defuse a bomb with a paper clip and cook a 12-pound ham with nothing but a sheet of tinfoil and pair of old socks. I think about him when my wife, Karel, and I talk about money. We may not have as much as we want, but we can turn a $30 gift card to Outback Steakhouse into a romantic night on the town. We might not be able to afford a trip to the water park, but we have a hose and a Slip 'N Slide, and after the kids go to bed we have a bottle of merlot to go with it (they don't let you bring wine to the water park). We might not have the house of our dreams, but we have a home we love. We get to live in it together, with our kids, and that's what matters.
Related: 10 Things Women Say That Make Men Go Crazy
Believe in what bonds you (source: Bill and Hillary Clinton)
Everyone thought that Al and Tipper Gore were the squeaky-clean couple that would last a lifetime, but in a bizarre turn of events, the Gores are no more and it's the Clintons who have been married for almost 40 years. We've witnessed their highs (usually occurring on the campaign trail at places like McDonald's) and very public lows (you know what happened). As a young dating dude in the late '90s, it was eye-opening to learn that people stay together and separate for a million different reasons. And sometimes it's the weirdos you invite to dinner who spend the entire night arguing who turn out to have the surprisingly durable marriage. Over time, I've seen that the Clintons share something bigger than what was, in retrospect, a gigantic but passing disturbance: They both possess unbridled ambition. That love of power seems to have transformed the man who couldn't keep it in his pants into his wife's biggest supporter, someone who truly loves and respects her. Understand each other's goals and long-term desires, and you'd be surprised what you can get through.
Related: Top 10 Things Men Hate To Hear In Bed
Get busy in the kitchen (source: Jamie Oliver cookbooks)
Jamie Oliver is a pale, gangly dude who waxes poetic about carrots, yet women go crazy for him. Women like my wife. However, I can't hate this man, because his easy meals are actually good and he gave me the confidence to get in the kitchen with Karel. Cooking together after work is a million times better than unwinding on the Internet. You're sharing a steamy space and you wind up with food. I've got everything I need right here, thanks.
Show your love in your own crazy ways (source: Mom and Dad)
Our parents are our first relationship role models, successful or otherwise. I was over at my parents' house the other day and saw an old baby-formula container on their counter, full of M&M's. When pressed, my mother admitted that she fills it up so that when my dad gets light-headed or dizzy, he can just "pop a few M&M's" to get straightened out. My dad has type 2 diabetes. My mom is managing my father's diabetes with M&M's portioned out into an old baby-formula container. yhyuykooooooooooooiuuuuuuu (that's what it looks like when the reality of what you've just typed is so ridiculous that you have no choice but to smash your head against the keyboard). I guess even the worst decisions can be motivated by love: She doesn't want him to get dizzy, she knows he'll forget to eat lunch, so she gives him his "medicine." It's not perfect-but then again, neither is marriage.
Related: 8 Things All Guys Are Secretly Insecure About
Keep trying to get it right (source: your partner)
Really, this is the most important person you learn about marriage from. There are the little things your spouse teaches you, like "Put the toilet seat down" or "Don't bother me while I'm watchingDoctor Who," but there are also the larger lessons. It took me a long time to learn how to fight. I tried fighting like my parents did, but that didn't work because Karel doesn't respond well to yelling. I tried burying it deep down so I wouldn't yell, but that didn't solve anything because I went mute. So now I've developed a very monotone delivery when I'm mad. It's not like Karel enjoys my fighting voice (I basically sound like a robot), but she doesn't tune it out. We don't scare the kids, we don't scare each other-hey, it works for us. I could only have learned to fight like a robot from being married to Karel, and I'm sure she's learned equally valuable lessons from me. I'll ask her what they are just as soon as Doctor Who is over.
by Redbook
Work with what you've got (source: MacGyver) Forget the Cosbys and the Keatons. In terms of TV role models, MacGyver made the big impression. His message: You gotta use what you have instead of lamenting what you don't. MacGyver could defuse a bomb with a paper clip and cook a 12-pound ham with nothing but a sheet of tinfoil and pair of old socks. I think about him when my wife, Karel, and I talk about money. We may not have as much as we want, but we can turn a $30 gift card to Outback Steakhouse into a romantic night on the town. We might not be able to afford a trip to the water park, but we have a hose and a Slip 'N Slide, and after the kids go to bed we have a bottle of merlot to go with it (they don't let you bring wine to the water park). We might not have the house of our dreams, but we have a home we love. We get to live in it together, with our kids, and that's what matters.
Related: 10 Things Women Say That Make Men Go Crazy
Believe in what bonds you (source: Bill and Hillary Clinton)
Everyone thought that Al and Tipper Gore were the squeaky-clean couple that would last a lifetime, but in a bizarre turn of events, the Gores are no more and it's the Clintons who have been married for almost 40 years. We've witnessed their highs (usually occurring on the campaign trail at places like McDonald's) and very public lows (you know what happened). As a young dating dude in the late '90s, it was eye-opening to learn that people stay together and separate for a million different reasons. And sometimes it's the weirdos you invite to dinner who spend the entire night arguing who turn out to have the surprisingly durable marriage. Over time, I've seen that the Clintons share something bigger than what was, in retrospect, a gigantic but passing disturbance: They both possess unbridled ambition. That love of power seems to have transformed the man who couldn't keep it in his pants into his wife's biggest supporter, someone who truly loves and respects her. Understand each other's goals and long-term desires, and you'd be surprised what you can get through.
Related: Top 10 Things Men Hate To Hear In Bed
Get busy in the kitchen (source: Jamie Oliver cookbooks)
Jamie Oliver is a pale, gangly dude who waxes poetic about carrots, yet women go crazy for him. Women like my wife. However, I can't hate this man, because his easy meals are actually good and he gave me the confidence to get in the kitchen with Karel. Cooking together after work is a million times better than unwinding on the Internet. You're sharing a steamy space and you wind up with food. I've got everything I need right here, thanks.
Show your love in your own crazy ways (source: Mom and Dad)
Our parents are our first relationship role models, successful or otherwise. I was over at my parents' house the other day and saw an old baby-formula container on their counter, full of M&M's. When pressed, my mother admitted that she fills it up so that when my dad gets light-headed or dizzy, he can just "pop a few M&M's" to get straightened out. My dad has type 2 diabetes. My mom is managing my father's diabetes with M&M's portioned out into an old baby-formula container. yhyuykooooooooooooiuuuuuuu (that's what it looks like when the reality of what you've just typed is so ridiculous that you have no choice but to smash your head against the keyboard). I guess even the worst decisions can be motivated by love: She doesn't want him to get dizzy, she knows he'll forget to eat lunch, so she gives him his "medicine." It's not perfect-but then again, neither is marriage.
Related: 8 Things All Guys Are Secretly Insecure About
Keep trying to get it right (source: your partner)
Really, this is the most important person you learn about marriage from. There are the little things your spouse teaches you, like "Put the toilet seat down" or "Don't bother me while I'm watchingDoctor Who," but there are also the larger lessons. It took me a long time to learn how to fight. I tried fighting like my parents did, but that didn't work because Karel doesn't respond well to yelling. I tried burying it deep down so I wouldn't yell, but that didn't solve anything because I went mute. So now I've developed a very monotone delivery when I'm mad. It's not like Karel enjoys my fighting voice (I basically sound like a robot), but she doesn't tune it out. We don't scare the kids, we don't scare each other-hey, it works for us. I could only have learned to fight like a robot from being married to Karel, and I'm sure she's learned equally valuable lessons from me. I'll ask her what they are just as soon as Doctor Who is over.
by Redbook
Saturday, September 21, 2013
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
7 types of men women CAN?T resist + why they are so irresistible
He can shoot the breeze with her for hours, and it will never get boring.Always wondered why some guys always manage to get the best of girls? Well, the secret is not good looks or a well-defined six pack, but the fact that women simply get attracted to certain personality traits and flock to men who possess them.
Below are seven of these “ideal types” of guys that women are drawn to, and an explanation as to why these guys are so appealing, reports Fox News. The list could help you understand what women are looking for, and most importantly, to make sure that you fit the bill.
The intelligent one
He instigates conversations that are intellectually stimulating, and listens to what she has to say in response. He makes her laugh with his clever sense of humour, and has an uncanny ability to make politics interesting. He can shoot the breeze with her for hours, and it will never get boring.
Why he is so irresistible
An intellectual connection is a big part of what sustains a relationship, and if you can show her that you’ve
got that, she’ll be hooked pretty quickly.
The confident guy
He is totally secure and sure of himself. He is assertive in public, and gives off an aura of power and control. In a relationship, he doesn’t get jealous of other men; he doesn’t feel threatened by his girlfriend’s male friends or co-workers.
Why he is so irresistible
Women are attracted to confident men. Consider this: If you think you are great, she will probably be influenced to think the same. The confident man doesn’t seek approval from women, and this makes them want him even more.
The artistic guy
The artistic guy is spontaneous and lives for the moment. Often, he will use his creativity to woo her, such as with a song he has written about her or a painting he has made for her.
Why he is so irresistible
Every woman wants to feel unique and special. There is no better way to make her feel this way than to use her as your muse or your source of inspiration. She is intrigued by the artistic guy’s creative mind, and especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.
The exotic element
He comes from a faraway exotic country, and has a cute accent or a unique way of seeing the world. His social customs, and everyday behaviour can be a little quirky, but he always manages to come off as uniquely charming.
Why he is so irresistible
Women often choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the world, but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination with dating someone from another culture.
The considerate guy
He holds open her car door, and pulls out her chair. He foots the bill for dinner, and makes sure to offer her dessert. He always asks her out with reasonable notice, and picks her up at her door. He is generally sensitive to how she is feeling, and when she is ready to go home.
Why he is so irresistible
Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad guy, the rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will likely re-evaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her part to realize this, but eventually most girls come around and realize that they want a guy who will treat them well in the long run. But, think twice before copying any of the above character types, for women can know when you are faking it.
Eternal romantic
He believes in classic romance. He is constantly bringing her flowers, chocolate and lighting candles during dinner. He calls her often to let her know he is thinking about her, and looks into her eyes and tells her how he feels.
Why he is so irresistible
A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses romantic gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an added bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.
The free spirit guy (aka the Bad Boy)
The free spirit guy goes where the wind takes him, and the wind usually takes him on some kind of whacky adventure. He might ride a motorcycle, or he might skip work to take her on a last-minute road trip, but this guy doesn’t worry too much about the consequences – he just sees where his own devices take him.
Why he is so irresistible
Every woman wants a bit of a rebel. She loves his carefree attitude and hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit adds an element of youthfulness to the relationship, and she loves to try taming him, although she knows she’ll never actually succeed.
Thursday, August 15, 2013
Scientists Confirm Old People Do have a Smell
The distinctive "old people smell" you may have noticed when visiting your grandparents most likely was not your imagination, a new study shows.
When pieces of worn out pads were placed in the armpits of young, middle-aged and elderly people for five consecutive nights, study participants could reliably distinguish the body odor of the elderly, who were older than 75, the researchers found.
"The results of this study support the concept of an 'old person smell,'" an international team of researchers wrote in the journal PLoS ONE.
The idea that elderly people have a distinctive odor exists in many cultures, and often the smell is said to be unpleasant. But this probably has more to do with negative perceptions of old age, rather than with the scent, according to study researcher Johan Lundstrom, an assistant professor at the Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
In the study, participants said that the smell of older people are less intense and less unpleasant than the body odor of 20 to 30-year-old people and middle-aged 45 to 55-year-olds. Participants confirmed that middle aged people have the worst body odor. The smell of women of all ages were rated as less intense than men, and closer to neutral odor for young and middle aged women.
(Exclusive ) Foods that are Good for Séx
séxologists, cardiologists, and psychologists agree: how much you consume has a huge impact on your séxual health. Essentially, what is good for your heart is good for better séx.
1.Spinach and other green vegetables
Spinach is a potent source of magnesium, which helps dilate blood vessels, according to Japanese researchers. Better blood flow to the genitals, as you've learned, creates greater arousal for men and women.
2.Unsweetened tea
The antioxidant catechin found in tea promotes blood flow all over the body for séx power and brainpower; it enhances memory, mood, and focus. One particularly potent catechin, a compound called ECGC prevalent in green tea, is thought to increase fat burn.
3.Oranges
Men who consume at least 200 milligrams of vitamin C a day improve their sperm counts and motility, according to research at the University of Texas Medical Branch.
4.Eggs
Over easy, hard-boiled, or scrambled, eggs aren't the most sensual food on the menu, but it's hard to beat them for a fit and healthy body inside and out. Eggs are rich in vitamins B6 and B5, which help balance hormone levels and ease stress, and are important for a healthy libido.
5.Red wine
Sounds like the makings of a good time to us! Italian researchers recently found that the antioxidants and alcohol in the wine may trigger the production of nitric oxide in the blood, which helps artery walls to relax, increasing blood flow to the genitals. Just limit yourselves to a glass or two. More alcohol than that can put a damper on séxual performance and lead to bed spins of a not-very-séxy nature.
6.Meat
Red meat. Lean cuts are great sources of zinc, a mineral that curbs production of a hormone called prolactin, which at high levels can cause séxual dysfunction.
Zinc is also a key muscle-building nutrient, and the high concentrations of conjugated linoleic acids (CLA) in beef, studies show, may spur weight loss. Choose filet mignon or other deep red cuts with round or loin in the name, because they are the leanest.
7.Beans
While they may not be the best choice for a side dish if you plan on séx for dessert, building your meal plan around a foundation of beans and legumes will ultimately pay off for you séxually. Many studies show that bean eaters are leaner and healthier than people who don't eat beans.
Beans is rich in potassium which regulates blood pressure and heart contractions, something you'll need as your heart starts racing when he does that special move that makes you melt.
8.Fatty fish
Oily coldwater fish like salmon, mackerel, sardines, and tuna should figure heavily into your weekly meal rotation. The omega-3 fatty acids DHA and EPA found in fish help to raise dopamine levels in the brain that trigger arousal.
9.Oats
Eating oats is one of the few natural ways to boost testosterone in the bloodstream. The male hormone plays a significant role in séx drive and orgasm strength in both men and women. Oats (as well as seeds, ginseng, nuts, dairy, and green vegetables) contain L-arginine, an amino acid that enhances the effect nitric oxide has on reducing blood vessel stiffness.
L-arginine has been used to treat erectile dysfunction. Like Viagra, it helps relax muscles around blood vessels in the penis. When they dilate, blood flow increases so a man can maintain an erection.
10.Oysters and other shellfish
Raw oysters actually do have a connection to séxual function. Oysters hold more zinc than most any other food, and it is believed that this mineral may enhance libido by helping with testosterone production--higher levels of the hormone are linked to an increase in desire.
Zinc is also crucial to healthy sperm production and blood circulation. Other good sources of zinc are shrimp, red meat, pumpkin seeds, poultry and pork, eggs, and dairy products.
11.Dark chocolate
Dark chocolate contains a compound called phenyl ethylamine that releases the same endorphins triggered by séx, and increases the feelings of attraction between two people.
Iranian Councilor Banned For Being Too séxy
It was barely 4 months ago that 3 men were deported for being too handsome and now despite promises made by Iran's new President, Hassan Rowhani, that women's civil rights will improve under his government, a city councilor has been barred from office for being "too séxy"
Nina Siakhali Moradi was prevented from taking up a post on the city council in Qazvin, the ancient capital of the Persian Empire, 100 miles north west of Tehran, after her election was overturned by religious conservatives.
Even with more than 10,000 votes in the June election, putting her 14th out of 163 candidates and winning her a council seat, the 27-year-old engineer and website designer had her political career cut short because she was deemed too attractive to take up the post.
"We don't want a catwalk model on the council," a senior official in Qazvin told local press.
Moradi ran under the slogan "Young ideas for a young future," pushing for better women's rights in Qazvin, the restoration of the old city and greater youth involvement in town planning.
She had been vetted and approved as a candidate by Iran's judiciary and intelligence services.
Her liberal views appeared popular with the electorate. Moradi's campaign posters showed her wearing strict hijab without a strand of hair on display.
Despite this, conservative religious groups launched protests to demand her disqualification as soon as her election was confirmed.
In a letter to the governor of Qazvin, a coalition of religious groups condemned the "vulgar and anti-religious" posters and said they breached Islamic law.
News website IranWire reported that there were other objections to her campaign. According to the website, her headquarters became a gathering place for local young people, whose behavior and clothing provoked criticism from her opponents, mostly older conservative men.
The complaint was challenged but ultimately upheld. She was disqualified for not "observing the Islamic norms."
Citing local media, IranWire reported that authorities had also confiscated the campaign posters of two other female candidates, Maryam Nakhostin-Ahmadi and Shahla Atefeh, and detained both for questioning.
President Rowhani is expected to bring a new era in women's rights. In a televised debate during his election campaign, he announced: "I will form a women's affairs ministry to return their trampled rights to them."
Thursday, August 1, 2013
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